品格的成長

My daughter (4 and half) is still at the age that enjoys getting a sticker. So we have a chart for her to work on some life skill assignments. We were working on things like… – Brush your own teeth – Finish your food – Say hello and thank you to people – Sleep through the night… She filled up most of the spaces, so I need to make her a new one! I am very happy to see her grow in her life skills and independence! I was thinking what I should put down in her chart for her new assignments. Then I thought of a book that I read… “Don’t focus on children’s behavior, focus on their characters” So instead of putting “to-do” list of assignment…. I gave her a list of characters. – Kindness – Obedience – Polite – Brave – Faith She still comes to me and asks for a sticker when she finishes her food. But my focus is for us to have a great conversation about characters. “You shared your sunglasses with your friend.  That was kind.” “You didn’t want to eat this food, but you tried it.  That was so brave!” What do you do to motivate your toddlers? What kind of conversation do you have? Mary


我四歲半的女兒還處於在一個喜歡拿貼紙當作獎勵的階段,所以我們做了一個填格圖表來鼓勵她在生活技能上有所進步。 這些項目包括:

  • 自己刷牙
  • 把自己的食物吃光
  • 要跟人打招呼及說謝謝
  • 好好睡一覺到天亮

她已經填滿了所有圖表內的空格,所以我必須要再做一張新的! 我很高興看到她不僅在生活技能上成長了,也更獨立了! 我正在想該在這張新的圖表上放哪些項目時,我想起了我讀了一本書《不要專注在孩子們的行為上,專注在他們的品格》 所以與其把「必須做」的生活技能放在圖表上,我給她一系列的好品格:

  • 良善
  • 順服
  • 禮貌
  • 勇敢
  • 信心

當她自己將碗裡的食物吃完時,她還是會跑來向我詢問貼紙當作獎勵。但我的目標是使我們能夠好好談談有關品格的事。 「妳將妳的太陽眼鏡和同學分享,這是一個良善的行為。」 「妳不想要吃這個食物,但是妳勇於嘗試了,這是一個勇敢的行為。」 妳怎樣去鼓勵妳的幼兒呢? 妳們之間的對話又是如何呢? Mary